Emma Blackery on consent & relationships

Emma Blackery makes a very good point in this video which is that we are finally having a conversation about consent, and how it’s not just this thing you need from your parents to go on a school trip but also something you need before you engage in a sexual activity with someone. *fanfare*

She’s talking really openly about how consent means a Confident, Well-Resounding, Sober YES – and that’s spot on because if it isn’t all of those things then you really shouldn’t go any further. She also talks about some methods of sexual pressure that can be applied – sometimes unknowingly – and how if you recognise them you either need to STOP (if you realise you’re doing it) or if it’s happening to you then tell the other person what they’re doing (or, you know, run for the hills and delete their number because if they know they’re applying pressure then they are not worth knowing).

Emma has a trick about how she can tell she’s ready to have sex and it involves being able to openly communicate with her partner. If she can’t, then she’s kinda sorta not! And it’s as simple as that. She didn’t know this trick when she had sex for the first time, and now she’s sharing it with you. So be ready, recognise consent OR *dun dun dunnnnnnn* sexual pressure, and communicate! Easy.